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Lack of Commitment

There was a clear lack of commitment when that did not get done, they divorced, the project was late, she resigned, he was downsized, it got out of control, she did not graduate.

It is easy to judge. The truth is we do not have enough information to judge others when it comes to commitment. There are valid reasons to break commitments. There are examples of a lack of commitment also. We rarely have enough information to judge.

Commitment is a challenge to our own personal integrity. Only we can determine the level of commitment we had in our heart when results did not come. Focusing on personal responsibility to commit and to determine if lack of our personal commitment was a factor in an outcome is the only true way to address commitment.

A major issue for commitment is time. Are we only obligated to commit in the beginning? Are we free to cease commitment because of what we see? Are we poised to remove ourselves if we suspect “they” are not committed? Commitment implies a dedication from start to finish, no matter what, barring unacceptable behavior or obstacles. The weakness in our English language implies we commit at the beginning, continue to commit if circumstances warrant, and declare we were commited if results are successful.

We will have discovered on our joyful pursuit of happiness commitment is a delicate balance of doing what it takes, no matter what, and of coming to believe it is time to bow out. Taking this lightly, blaming others and/or circumstances for the reason to bow out can lead to a series of paths of regret.

Commitment to Family

A strong sense of commitment is the foundation for a strong, fully-functional family. The commitment of each family member includes:

  • Giving heartfelt appreciation to family members when deserved
  • Spending time together
  • Showing affection
  • Constructively solving problems using compromise, boundaries, and agreements
  • Communicating completely to understanding
  • Managing stress and crises with a focus on learning lessons of life and having faith in the future
  • Developing and honoring a set of family principles
  • Nurturing a “yes” attitude
  • Using internal and external people, tools, and information for addressing the present and planning for the future.

The approach to commitment is best viewed as a commitment to helping each family member to grow physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually; including oneself and the family unit as a whole.

As adults, we will have discovered on our joyful pursuit of happiness the paramount commitment becomes growing emotionally and spiritually and helping all family members to grow emotionally and spiritually, without condition.

Change Over Time

Change can be instantaneous. Change can take centuries. Sometimes a change appears instantaneous when the truth is one or more people have been working on the change for a very long time. The longer something has been stable, the more difficult it is to change and the longer it may take to change.

We sometimes try to change something and discover it remains the same. We will have found on our life journey it is best to learn from this and to never assume it will remain the same forever. Without additional action, we may find the change long, long afterward.

We may not become aware of a change. That does not mean we made no impact. It may simply mean we do not know about it. A perspective on what we do not know is much more important than what we do know.

The impact each individual has on others, both present and far into the future, is much greater than is known. We shall rejoice as often as we can in the positive impact we will have had on others, some of which we will know nothing about (while on this earth).

What we cannot change

Sometimes it seems there is an unlimited number of things in life we cannot change. The truth is there are fewer than we tend to believe. However, here are three very important aspects of our journey of life that we cannot change.

  • The past
  • The pace of time
  • The differences in people

These aspects of life have something else in common. People have spent unmeasurable time and effort wishing, hoping, and trying to change them.

We will have learned that understanding, accepting, and refusing to dwell on what we cannot change is a joyful trait to learn.

Oh, one more thing we cannot change. Life is often unfair. Enough said.

The Pace of Time

Not enough hours in a day! Where did the week go?

We humans frequently turn our frustrations toward “not having enough time.” Baffling! Befuddling! Each and every one of us has exactly the same amount of time each hour, each day, each week, each month, each year, each decade…….

We have done it to ourselves. Humans invented the measurement of time. We have created a world of complex, fast-paced thoughts and action.

Balanced planning, striving to live each moment to the fullest, and being grateful for each day we are given work best when we accept the pace of time. Accepting the pace of time is a very healthy path to take on our journey to a joyful pursuit of happiness.

Assessing Time Factors

Assessing with a perspective on time helps us tremendously to make effective choices. If we are assessing information in order to make a choice, we may not think to include time factors. A few examples are:

  • Given choosing to make a change, how long has it been the way it is?
  • Given choosing to acquire a product or service, how long has the product or service been available?
  • Given choosing to get a certain result, how long has it taken others to get this result?
  • Given choosing to develop a relationship, how long might it endure?
  • Given choosing a career, how long is its life expectancy?

The longer anything has been the way it is, the harder and/or longer it takes to change whatever it is. The future is an unknown. Life is hard.