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Commitment to Family

A strong sense of commitment is the foundation for a strong, fully-functional family. The commitment of each family member includes:

  • Giving heartfelt appreciation to family members when deserved
  • Spending time together
  • Showing affection
  • Constructively solving problems using compromise, boundaries, and agreements
  • Communicating completely to understanding
  • Managing stress and crises with a focus on learning lessons of life and having faith in the future
  • Developing and honoring a set of family principles
  • Nurturing a “yes” attitude
  • Using internal and external people, tools, and information for addressing the present and planning for the future.

The approach to commitment is best viewed as a commitment to helping each family member to grow physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually; including oneself and the family unit as a whole.

As adults, we will have discovered on our joyful pursuit of happiness the paramount commitment becomes growing emotionally and spiritually and helping all family members to grow emotionally and spiritually, without condition.

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The Past

Should have chosen the other path! Could have gotten in, if it hadn’t been for that teacher! Would have done that, if only I had known. Shoulda, coulda, woulda!

We all have a tendency to blame the past for where we are on our journey. We’re human. None of our pasts are perfect. Blaming the past and dwelling on regretful experiences have a way of causing our journey to be stressful, not joyful.

Celebrate the past. Learn from it. Cherish it. The past is already a part of each OneRoad Traveled. Unhappy experiences are a part of our journey, but they can lead to significant paths of happy future experiences. Every joyful human being has had unhappy experiences.

Priorities

Too much to do, too many choices, too many #1 priorities…….too much stress!

Somehow in today’s world, we have arrived in a place where choosing the best next action has resulted in a myriad of prioritization approaches. We have even come to believe this is a necessary skill for every adult. Because of our approach to prioritizing, Henry David Thoreau actually turns in his grave daily, spiritually screaming, “simplify, simplify!”

The inability to effectively prioritize has led to massive multi-tasking. Somehow, considering what all we might do on a given day, we are choosing to do as many activities as we possibly can, many of them simultaneously, as fast as we can do them. The theory of this planning perspective has become, at the end of the day: Surely we will have done something of worth in all that activity and people will perceive with great admiration we are incredibly busy.

The actual result is many important activities not completed thoroughly, a huge number of activities undone, and a debilitating amount of stress. We stare at the to-do list at the end of the day and see a few items with lines through them, causing us to focus on those that were not accomplished. Rather than a journey of life, we have created a marathon race of life.

The truth is the greatest driver of results is motivation and the greatest driver of motivation is a feeling of success. If we believe this, the only conclusion we can come to is to focus on the activities performed each day, both those resulting in successful completion and those with bumps in the road. Learn from the bumps in the road and record the successes.

The best start for each day is to review recent successes and with a balance of logic, intuition, and spirituality, choose the best activities for the day. Sure, we must keep track of what needs to be done, consistent with where we are headed on our journey. The emphasis just needs to shift.

When a successful accomplishment is completed at some point during your day, rather than strike a big line through it, just highlight it, smile, and move on with your journey.

A daily success list, not a to-do list, is the best way of creating future successes. Isn’t that really the goal? ….or is it excellent prioritization?!