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Selfish Attitudes

Attitudes about self are possibly the most critical aspect of our joyful pursuit of happiness. There is a clear danger with going too far with our self image.

Self righteous – Piously sure of one’s own righteousness; moralistic. Exhibiting pious self-assurance.

Self centered – Engrossed in oneself and one’s own affairs; selfish

Self deception – The act of deceiving oneself or the state of being deceived by oneself.

We will have discovered it is best not to go there. This path sends us on a journey of unhappiness at best, probably high anxiety, and possibly even tragedy. This is a very big deal. The key to developing our self image is to constantly strive for a growing understanding of pride and humility.

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Self-centered Behavior

We will have discovered our purpose on this earth is not to simply satisfy ourselves. Our purpose is unique to each of us. It is focused on service to others and helping life grow.

Self-centered behavior is needed at times on our journey. We must take care of ourselves; physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Also, once our values and beliefs are developed and strong, we will find the need to stand up for these.

The balance of our behavior focused on others and other life compared to the focus on ourselves is one of the most difficult balance subjects on our joyful journey. The best balance for each of us varies. We will have discovered the best place to land is to focus mostly on others and other life without ever permitting the focus on ourselves to be dangerously low.

Structured Behavior

Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness might suggest each of us can do anything legal, anytime. There is a great deal of truth in that; however, constant unplanned, reactionary behavior doesn’t work for any of us.

We discover primarily imposed structures from birth to leaving high school. Eventually, our human nature causes us to cry freedom and have a bias toward self centered and immediate gratification type behavior. In today’s world it has become more of the attitude and temptation than ever before.

It is very challenging to embrace the reality that choosing our own structured behavior is the highest expression of freedom we humans can attain. We will have discovered defining our daily routines and ongoing habits, combined with providing a balance of opportunities over time for spontaneous actions and pleasures, is the true definition of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.