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Faith and Commitment

There are multiple definitions of both faith and commitment. One meaning of each follows and are the meanings intended for the discussion:

Commitment – The state of being bound emotionally and/or intellectually to a course of action or to another person or persons.

Faith – Confident belief in the truth, value, or trustworthiness of a person, idea, or thing.

Choices we make can be a single action, repeated actions leading to our behaviors, or a character trait to develop. We make choices just for today, and choices that last weeks, years, perhaps a lifetime. When we do not complete a course of action, turn an idea into reality, stay married, maintain a long-term friendship, keep a promise, or continue a healthy habit; we give reasons specific to the situation.

We humans tend toward being out of balance on this. Many of us tend toward justifying our every choice, action, and behavior. Many of us do the opposite. We tell ourselves we have been mostly wrong in our life with our actions and our relationships.

We will have discovered on our joyful pursuit of happiness, the truth is we either lost our faith or became no longer committed, or both. Sometimes it is the best path to take; sometimes it is not. We must be fine with that. Learning and growing from these experiences and building our integrity is the high road.

Consistent Behavior

Consistent behavior helps us build character, relationships, strengths, successes, and more. Like many great things, it can be overdone and become a weakness. We will have discovered it can be beneficial to have:

behavior that is consistent

  • With our beliefs
  • with our purpose
  • with our promises and commitments
  • with who we really are
  • with our daily needs
  • with the goals we set

Consistent behavior can become a weakness when we get stuck in our routines. We will have discovered a need to strike a balance between consistency and the personal growth that comes from creativity, risk taking, spontaneity, and intentional change.

Goals and Problems

Asked to choose their generation’s top goals from among five options, 18 to 24 year-olds listed these as either most important or second most important:

  • To get rich                                              81%
  • To be famous                                         51%
  • To help pe0ple who need help            30%
  • To be leaders in their community      22%
  • To become more spiritual                    10%

They also said their most important individual problem is:

  • Money/debt                                           30%
  • College/education                                  18%
  • Career/job                                               16%
  • Family/relationships                               7%
  • Health                                                        2%
  • National/Int’l conditions                         2%
  • All other (including don’t know)          29%

Hmmm! Quite an indication of the character of today’s youth!

Happy Easter!

Source: Pew Research Center 2006 Generation Next Survey

Staying Too Long

Time to move on? No, wait, if I just hang on a year or two more, it will be……..

When to bow out of an environment is one of the challenging choices in life. Changing jobs, moving our residence, retiring, no longer living with parents, severing a relationship are some examples we all face during our joyful journey. No one bows out of environments with perfect timing every time.

We will have discovered, as we gain experience bowing out, we tend to err on the side of taking too long to move on. Our jobs go from challenging and rewarding to draining and boring. Our relationship with a friend can go from comforting and trusting to one of constant conflict and anxiety. Individuals are no longer in control of choosing a late retirement.

Fame and fortune bring example after example of this challenge via the media. Stage, screen, and TV stars; famous singers and musicians; superstar athletes and legendary coaches; and elected and appointed governmental officials provide example after example of going far beyond the best time to bow out.

With a successful past, it is very difficult to focus on future opportunities. Life is very difficult. We will have discovered as we review our journey in later years we regret most the things we did not do. Bowing out sooner versus later can be a major category of “If I had it to do over again……”

Relationships

Everything is great with our relationships! Right?

It’s all too easy taking for granted the quality of our relationships. Choosing wisely here and knowing ourselves well as it applies to our relationships is potentially the most important and most difficult thing we do on this earth.

We will have found building strong, lasting, and loving relationships is paramount in our joyful journey to the pursuit of happiness.

Assessing – A check point

We can do a check point on the life choices we have made. To assess isolated choices, relationship choices, choices of habit, and more; the question to ask is:

How do we honestly feel about getting up each morning and starting our day?

Maturity

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 Maturity involves being honest and true to oneself, making decisions based on a conscious internal process, assuming responsibility for one’s decisions, having healthy relationships with others, and developing one’s own true gifts. It involves thinking about one’s own environment and deciding what one will and won’t accept.

                                                                 Mary Pipher

http://www.marypipher.net/

This is a roadsign for our journey to a joyful pursuit of happiness.