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Structured Behavior

Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness might suggest each of us can do anything legal, anytime. There is a great deal of truth in that; however, constant unplanned, reactionary behavior doesn’t work for any of us.

We discover primarily imposed structures from birth to leaving high school. Eventually, our human nature causes us to cry freedom and have a bias toward self centered and immediate gratification type behavior. In today’s world it has become more of the attitude and temptation than ever before.

It is very challenging to embrace the reality that choosing our own structured behavior is the highest expression of freedom we humans can attain. We will have discovered defining our daily routines and ongoing habits, combined with providing a balance of opportunities over time for spontaneous actions and pleasures, is the true definition of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

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Staying Too Long

Time to move on? No, wait, if I just hang on a year or two more, it will be……..

When to bow out of an environment is one of the challenging choices in life. Changing jobs, moving our residence, retiring, no longer living with parents, severing a relationship are some examples we all face during our joyful journey. No one bows out of environments with perfect timing every time.

We will have discovered, as we gain experience bowing out, we tend to err on the side of taking too long to move on. Our jobs go from challenging and rewarding to draining and boring. Our relationship with a friend can go from comforting and trusting to one of constant conflict and anxiety. Individuals are no longer in control of choosing a late retirement.

Fame and fortune bring example after example of this challenge via the media. Stage, screen, and TV stars; famous singers and musicians; superstar athletes and legendary coaches; and elected and appointed governmental officials provide example after example of going far beyond the best time to bow out.

With a successful past, it is very difficult to focus on future opportunities. Life is very difficult. We will have discovered as we review our journey in later years we regret most the things we did not do. Bowing out sooner versus later can be a major category of “If I had it to do over again……”