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Accept Some and Change Some

Accepting and changing can be a both and more versus an either/or. One way to accept and change is to do some of each.

Negotiation can be a mutually beneficial process. We many times experience the sense of the outcome of negotiation is win-lose or even lose-lose. On our journey we will have discovered most of these times are due to our selfish nature. Insisting on having everything our way, and only our way, is not a mature and responsible choice.

Taking Responsibility

It’s not my fault, it’s not my job, Bob did it, it’s too hard, Mary made me do it.

We take this characteristic of a three year old and take it decades into our life to a point of maturity, aimless wandering, or complete withdrawal.

Taking full responsibility for our choices and actions is the foundation of personal growth. This is so important, so easy to say, so easy to understand, and so incredibly difficult to do. It ends up being one of many parts of the journey of a joyful pursuit of happiness where none of us reach perfection……..but should never give up on making progress.  

If we are not personally responsible for our own pursuit of happiness, who is?



 Maturity involves being honest and true to oneself, making decisions based on a conscious internal process, assuming responsibility for one’s decisions, having healthy relationships with others, and developing one’s own true gifts. It involves thinking about one’s own environment and deciding what one will and won’t accept.

                                                                 Mary Pipher


This is a roadsign for our journey to a joyful pursuit of happiness.