We will have discovered during our joyful pursuit of happiness the present moment is best lived with a yes attitude.
For those thoughts, words, and actions we enjoy, we say yes. Yes, we like all these, we’re experiencing joy here and now.
For those thoughts, words, and actions we choose, but find unpleasant, we say yes. Yes, these are unpleasant, but we have faith in discovering value through sense of accomplishment, fulfillment of obligation, and lessons learned.
We find it is necessary many times to change with the changes in our environment.
When change comes at us, it is best to view it as a valuable opportunity to learn and to grow. We have freedom of choice and changes in our environment is one of the crucial times to exercise that freedom.
We can choose how to view the change. We can choose how to learn and to grow as a result of the change. Changing is growing and learning.
On our journey to a joyful pursuit of happiness, we will have found it best to treat everything, absolutely everything, as valuable information, and learn from it. The conscious habit of building on experience strengthens the foundation for our OneRoad.
Thinking about life choices WOW!! Isn’t it great to have a human brain? It is clearly the best brain for thinking on planet earth. How we use it is up to us.
The “experts” say the thinking we do in the left side of our brain is different than the right side. No one knows what they will say decades from now. We all tend to find we’re most successful using our right brain sometimes, our left brain sometimes, and then to learn from it. When a tough choice comes up, we do our best by using our right brain, left brain, heart, tips of our fingers, and both kneecaps.
We must remember, if we use one side of our brain a whole lot more than the other, we will find ourselves walking around mostly leaning in one direction. Others will think we look strange.
Speedy action, slow but sure, haste makes waste, what are we waiting for?!!
There is always an issue of how long we spend thinking about a choice before we make it. When we judge others taking too long to take action we call them a procrastinator. When we judge they are acting too quickly we label them too hasty.
The truth is we do not have all relevant information for any given choice. We are not all knowing. Perhaps the most important aspects of a choice in life is how much information do we choose to pursue and how much we choose to believe the information. Some of us are wired to have a bias to make the choice quickly based on the information we do have. Some of us tend toward gathering additional information until we feel we have identified all the options and considered each option thoroughly.
There is no right or wrong in most choices we make on a daily basis. It varies greatly by individual and by the nature of the choice.
Learn about life and about yourself by considering the results of your own choices. Include learning about the results of choices of others you know and trust. Do not dwell on the choices you made you believe you could have made better. We all have a tendency to beat ourselves up and continue to regret poor choices. It is by far best to learn from it and move on with our personal life journey.
When we “think about” a choice it is common to use words such as assess, consider, deliberate, estimate, evaluate, and weigh. Each word has meaning which varies somewhat. Let us choose “assess” as our word for thinking about choices. Assess is the one word that brings in both the ideas of considering and evaluating.
The next few posts on OneRoad will be about assessing.
By the way, the only word in Roget’s New Millenium Thesaurus that has exactly the above list of synonyms is balance.
It is such a blessing to have freedom of choice. Giving up our freedom of choice is unthinkable, yet making choices in life can be the most difficult and frustrating thing we do. There is no magic wand. Life is hard, unfair, and even tragic at times. Life also offers breathtakingly joyful experiences and can be loads of fun.
We each go on our journey of life without a map and without directions. The purpose of this writing and the next few writings is to share what I’ve learned about setting directions in one’s life.
Crucial to making good life choices is an understanding of both the information one has and the information one does not have. Making better choices is a journey of learning from past choices and applying this experience to future choices. Too much time spent considering poor choices in made in the past is very common for humans. Limiting our time dwelling on the past and focusing on learning from both good and bad choices is the best approach.
We have no control over choices made in the past and many times we do not have complete control over future choices. Our lives can be characterized as the sum of the choices we make combined with the countless choices of countless others. We must not dwell negatively on the quality of the choices of others. Focus on your future choices and know that you do have influence over others’ choices to some degree. The most successful ways to influence others is setting an example by your own actions, or to communicate by using a real example that worked, or both.