Tag Archives: emotion

Commitment to Personal Growth

We are physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual beings. Personal growth happens without our placing a strong commitment to our own growth. We humans tend to let things happen, react, and learn.

Physical  –  Physical growth is taken for granted. We mature in our late teens/early twenties. Done deal. However, a commitment to physical growth as an adult becomes a commitment to health and fitness.

Intellectual – We do pursue education enough to become employed and devote attention to training needed to do our job. However, a commitment to intellectual growth becomes a pursuit of a broader wisdom and a deeper understanding of mother nature and human nature.

Emotionally – We find ourselves able to generally become an emotional adult versus feeling and displaying the emotions of a five year old. However, a commitment to emotional growth is a commitment to improve self-control, patience, love, integrity, and our peacemaking skills. 

Spiritually – Most of us believe God and heaven do exist. We may discover a time when we want to know more. If not yet a longing, a commitment to spiritual growth is to strive to tap our inner self, beyond just using our intellect. We develop our heart, intuition, peace of mind, and more.

A commitment to personal growth requires a commitment to a growing understanding of humility. 

What have I learned? What have I discovered? How can I grow? These are question we can ask ourselves at the end of each day, each week, each month, each year, and each decade.

We will have discovered on our joyful pursuit of happiness that a commitment to personal growth is difficult to maintain and difficult to feel great success in one day, one week, or one month. Over a decade, with great humility, we will have discovered a tremendous sense of personal accomplishment.

Commitment to Marriage

Divorce rates show how strong the commitment to marriage is consistent with ’til death do us part.’ Are there reasons to divorce? Yes. It is our responsible choice whether the grounds are severe and dangerous behaviors or are the frustrating behaviors of every day life.

Commitment to marriage is not a commitment to erotic attraction ’til death do us part.’ Commitment to marriage is not a commitment to agreement on everything ’til death do us part.’ Commitment to marriage is not a commitment to staying only if our spouse does not change ’til death do us part.’ Commitment to marriage is not a commitment as long as our spouse changes to our satisfaction ’til death do us part.’ Commitment to marriage is not a commitment to avoid conflict ’til death do us part.’

We will have discovered marriage is a commitment to help our spouse grow emotionally and spiritually and a commitment to ourself to grow emotionally and spiritually with our spouse……….’til death do us part’……no matter what.

Emotional choices

OOOOOHHHH WOW, I’ve just gotta do something RIGHT NOW!

Choices made while experiencing high emotional levels, positive or negative anxiety, are very risky. The choices we regret the most are those made as a quick reaction to anger.  Other regretful choices can result from fear, elation, depression, self ecstasy, et. al. The most successful choices come when shortly after high anxiety has eased, perhaps the next day, we choose to do something constructive or healing.

Far too often, after moving our high anxiety to emotional balance, we fail to choose to take effective action. Missed opportunities for positive personal change or for relationship building can hurt for a lifetime. As many have said throughout history, we regret in life what we did not do much more than what we did do.