Attitude of Kindness

That person is the kindest person I have ever known.

It is difficult to discover on our joyful pursuit of happiness a better feeling about another human being. If we commit to this destination for ourselves, it starts with an attitude of kindness.

Kindness Quote

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Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for kindness.

                              Seneca

Attitudes about Self

Truly loving oneself connects with a number of attitudes about self. Three very important examples are: 

Self Confidence – confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities.

Self Respect – due respect for oneself, one’s character, and one’s conduct.

Self Control – restraint exercised over one’s own impulses, emotions, or desires.

Feeling the right way about oneself does not require appoval from others. We find we may be tempted to equate being lovable with the sense of being loved by others. Rather, we will have discovered we must develop the attitude within that we are worthy of respect and love, even with our imperfections and our critics.

Self Image – The conception that one has of oneself, including an assessment of qualities and personal worth. (This definition is clearly neutral) 

Self Worth – Pride in oneself; self-respect. (Self-worth can be a confusing term. Watch out for pride)

Our perception of self can get out of control on our journey. Out of control self-image becomes self-centeredness. Self-centeredness is usually based on a denial and cover-up of low attitudes about self.

Self-Esteem is a word that has gained much attention in recent years and has confused many. Low self-esteem and high self-esteem are presented as an “either/or” – low is bad and high is good. That is the basis of the confusion. Healthy self-esteem is a better description of one who has the best attitudes about self.

Pride in oneself is an attitude that can become out of control. Too much pride in oneself leads to a “better than everyone else” attitude. We will have discovered on our joyful pursuit of happines excessive pride can lead to lethal attitudes about self and is the First of the Seven Deadly Sins.

Selfish Attitudes

Attitudes about self are possibly the most critical aspect of our joyful pursuit of happiness. There is a clear danger with going too far with our self image.

Self righteous – Piously sure of one’s own righteousness; moralistic. Exhibiting pious self-assurance.

Self centered – Engrossed in oneself and one’s own affairs; selfish

Self deception – The act of deceiving oneself or the state of being deceived by oneself.

We will have discovered it is best not to go there. This path sends us on a journey of unhappiness at best, probably high anxiety, and possibly even tragedy. This is a very big deal. The key to developing our self image is to constantly strive for a growing understanding of pride and humility.

Bad Attitudes

We easily see bad attitudes when they are displayed in words or actions. Here are a few:

  • negative
  • critical
  • defiant
  • impatient
  • uncooperative
  • apathetic
  • presumptive
  • rebellious
  • arrogant
  • self-centered
  • rude
  • hateful
  • unforgiving
  • resentful
  • confrontational
  • hopeless

These are bad attitudes we see in others through words and action. It is more difficult to see these in ourselves, but we all have bad attitudes come into our thoughts. When we express these thoughts in words and action, we tend to deny, blame, or rationalize.

These are bad attitudes leading to a miserable pursuit of unhappiness. We will have discovered it is best to make conscious, heartfelt, and constructive choices when we experience bad attitudes.

Good Attitudes

Attitude is our inner thinking, feeling, or disposition about people, places, things, and circumstances. Attitude is one of the crucial fuels for thoughts, actions, behavior, and ultimately, character. We will have discovered having predominately bad attitudes does not lead to a joyful pursuit of happiness.

Life is very difficult. If we depend on our environment to give us good attitudes, we will not succeed. We must strive for a lifetime of hard work developing and growing good attitudes Some of the very best attitudes to pursue are:

  • loving
  • humble
  • forgiving
  • caring
  • respectful
  • helpful
  • patient
  • grateful
  • responsible
  • compassionate
  • peacemaking

We will discover developing good attitudes is a very holistic pursuit. Sometimes, we will find we can simply change our thinking and feelings. Many, many times we will find that approach just does not work. We may need to look at ourselves and our surroundings. Our hearts may tell us to look at what we put into our bodies, our level and type of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual activity, the nature of our relationships. By staying with it, we will have discovered our ability to discover the best first, second, and next steps on our journey to good attitudes.

It takes perseverance, another great attitude that deserves our focus.

Change of Attitude Quotes

Human beings, by changing the inner attitude of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.

William James

He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life in fruitless efforts.

Samuel Johnson

 

Could we change our attitude, we should not only see life differently, but life itself would come to be different. Life would undergo a change of appearance because we ourselves had undergone a change in attitude.
Katherine Mansfield
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