Category Archives: Paths

Paths for Life

For the countless choices in life, the truth is there are simply three paths before us at all times:

  • Accept with Peace
  • Bow Out with Grace
  • Change with Responsibility

The paths for our joyful journey are as easy as ABC to describe and as difficult to execute as life itself.


As we choose our paths on our joyful journey of life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness, we will have found perfection to be an elusive goal.

We have various views on perfection, most of which are unattainable.

One definition of perfection is certainly attainable and is an admirable objective to have in many of our journey pursuits.

perfect,  pehr-fekt, a. [L, perfectus, pp, of perficio, to complete or finish — per. thoroughly and facio, to do. FACT] Brought to a consummation or completion; having received and possessing all its parts; finished; completed.

When Not to Bow Out

We will have discovered there are times we feel like leaving an environment or situation. Sometimes it is the best choice to make. Sometimes it is not.

We do not bow out simply because there is pain, anger, and fear, hoping to go to a place where that never happens. There is no place absent of sources of pain, anger, and fear.

Being in a job, a relationship, a group endeavor, virtually any environment we experience over time, includes a commitment to work through the difficulties. Those difficulties many times will cause pain, sorrow, grief, anger, fear, and even tragedy.

We do not bow out if our heart truly tells us we are quitting, avoiding, or giving up.

When to Bow Out

We will have discovered on our journey there are rewarding times to bow out of an environment or situation we have been in.

We bow out when we choose not to accept something we truly believe we cannot change.

We bow out when we choose to no longer endeavor to change what we cannot accept.

We bow out when we feel there is more to be learned elsewhere. We will have the feeling in our heart it is simply time to move on. When we do choose to move on, we do so with grace.

Grace is a very beautiful friend to have.

Forego an Advantage



Next to knowing when to seize an opportunity, the most important thing in life is to know when to forego an advantage.

Benjamin Disraeli

Staying Too Long

Time to move on? No, wait, if I just hang on a year or two more, it will be……..

When to bow out of an environment is one of the challenging choices in life. Changing jobs, moving our residence, retiring, no longer living with parents, severing a relationship are some examples we all face during our joyful journey. No one bows out of environments with perfect timing every time.

We will have discovered, as we gain experience bowing out, we tend to err on the side of taking too long to move on. Our jobs go from challenging and rewarding to draining and boring. Our relationship with a friend can go from comforting and trusting to one of constant conflict and anxiety. Individuals are no longer in control of choosing a late retirement.

Fame and fortune bring example after example of this challenge via the media. Stage, screen, and TV stars; famous singers and musicians; superstar athletes and legendary coaches; and elected and appointed governmental officials provide example after example of going far beyond the best time to bow out.

With a successful past, it is very difficult to focus on future opportunities. Life is very difficult. We will have discovered as we review our journey in later years we regret most the things we did not do. Bowing out sooner versus later can be a major category of “If I had it to do over again……”

Which Road to Take



One day Alice came to a fork in the road

and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree 

“Which road do I take?” she asked

His response was a question: “Where do you want to go?”

“I don’t know,” Alice answered.

“Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”    

 from Alice in Wonderland, by Lewis Carroll