Since there is no Map for Life, we discover we determine our own directions. The directions we choose will be best for each of us if we:
Assess with Perspective
Build with Progress
Choose with Willingness
It’s as simple as ABC to state and as difficult to execute as life itself.
As we go along our life journey, we will have discovered building personal integrity is the most powerful trait to possess and the one we have the most control over.
Integrity is about being honest with ourselves. It is about striving to a firm adherence to a code of lofty moral values. High personal integrity creates trustworthiness by standing true to a responsibility or pledge.
Perfect integrity is not reachable on this earth. The journey is to grow forward in knowing oneself, being honest with oneself, building a strong personal moral code, acting in accordance with one’s code and one’s word, and admitting one’s mistakes. Making the same mistakes over and over does not build integrity.
Building high personal integrity will help make the road smoother to a joyful pursuit of happiness.
When something doesn’t seem right to us, we need to seek understanding. We ask for additional information, communicate the information we have and why we see differences.
Abruptly stating, “I completely disagree,” or “that makes no sense at all” creates anxiety, not understanding.
We will have discovered building understanding is a required part of our foundation for growing as individuals.
Everything is great with our relationships! Right?
It’s all too easy taking for granted the quality of our relationships. Choosing wisely here and knowing ourselves well as it applies to our relationships is potentially the most important and most difficult thing we do on this earth.
We will have found building strong, lasting, and loving relationships is paramount in our joyful journey to the pursuit of happiness.
On our journey to a joyful pursuit of happiness, we will have found it best to treat everything, absolutely everything, as valuable information, and learn from it. The conscious habit of building on experience strengthens the foundation for our OneRoad.
Oh, such weaknesses we have! How do we make them go away? How do we get better and better?
The truth is we will have found during our journey that focusing on eliminating our weaknesses does not help us very much at becoming a better and better person. There are extreme exceptions. If we are in denial of a debilitating weakness, we will continue a downward spiral until we hit a bottom or until we stop denying. If we admit it, we will need to focus on correcting the major weakness and nothing else.
Otherwise, we truly find spending more time building on our strengths is, by far, the very best way to personal growth. It’s a whole lot easier, it’s more fun, it’s more motivating, and most importantly, we can do it.
Some weaknesses are “wired in” to our beings to such a degree we cannot get rid of them. Sure, we can manage them to some level and it is best to do this. No human being on this earth is capable of eliminating all their weaknesses.
Balancing our efforts is the key. This means spending most of our time building on strengths and spending a smaller amount of time managing our weaknesses. Easier said than done. Recording our successes helps more than beating ourselves up for one step backwards.
Every day you may make progress. Every step may be fruitful. Yet there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening, ever ascending, ever improving path. You know you will never get to the end of the journey. But this, so far from discouraging, only adds to the joy and glory of the climb.
Sir Winston Churchill
This is a roadsign for our journey to a joyful pursuit of happiness.